As you’ll vividly recollect, at the beginning of the year, it was the trending resolution to ‘cut haters and fake friends off’.
True to the vision of my blog, today I’ll be talking about God’s perspective of that mindset, so grab a bowl of popcorn, cross your legs and keep an open mind as I break this table into pieces.
Trust me, I understand first-hand how frustrating human beings can be so believe me when I say I can relate to the response of wanting to cut people off.
First of all, it’s important to note that as believers, our response to any situation MUST be based on the word of God. It’s very important to note that as a new creature, you’re born of a new spirit and this spirit is teachable!
Understanding this principle, we’re inclined to follow the precepts of God’s word in our dealings with people. Growing spiritually, we’ve been made to understand the love of God and that God is LOVE. This knowledge is very important as it reinforces the truth that we are reborn out of the same nature of God, and by implication, we have the spirit of Love.
I’ll re- illustrate the love of God towards you.
1) In his infinite Love, he chose to send his only begotten son to die for your redemption.
2) Jesus left all his divinity and took up the form of a man ( in more clear terms, imagine leaving an incorruptible body for one that mosquitoes can bite and give malaria… Tragic😩)
3) After all the miracles and teachings Jesus had; blessing many lives and raising the dead, it wasn’t recorded that any of them were found supporting Jesus when it was time to choose between himself and Barabbas
4) His disciple, Judas sold him out for money.
5) Peter denied knowing or having anything to do with him.
6) The very people he came to die for humiliated him up to the point he was nailed to the cross.
But regardless of all of these, before he died on that cross, Jesus laid the perfect example for us. Not taking into consideration all the wrongs they had done to him, or the miracles they had forgotten, Jesus said
“Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. ”
Luke 23:34 KJV
This example poses a great challenge to us as believers.
Seeing as Christ did not take into consideration any of the wrongs done to him before he forgave, if we claim to follow in his footsteps, we must do the same.
Simply put, you have been called to a lifetime of forgiveness. You do not have the privilege to be unforgiving anymore.
I understand that it may be hard to release certain people for all the wrongs they have caused you, but choosing this path demands that you must.
Freely receiving this enormous amount of grace demands that you extend that same grace to the people around you.
“Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.”
1 John 3:16 KJV
We all are a work in progress, and I totally get that it may not be easy at first. It’s truly never easy at first to forgive that primary school teacher who sexually abused you, to forgive the parent who was never present in your life, to forgive the friend who hurt you badly, to forgive the people who sorely betrayed your trust. But hey, I’m here to tell you to take it a step at a time.
Firstly, it’s about completely grasping the love of Jesus towards you and all he gave up to give you the redemption that you now bask in.
Secondly, it’s about understanding that Jesus also shed his blood for the other person in question. Seeing this person through this glass changes everything. It helps you to understand that this person is just as valuable to God as you are. Seeing him or her through the eyes of God bestows on you a responsibility to forgive and release them.
I’d like to state here that a lot of the time, forgiveness is more about releasing yourself rather than the other person. It may take sometime to come to terms with it and that’s totally fine. But I hope you understand this soon enough and live as God wills for you to live.
P.S – I’m praying for everyone reading this. I really hope that this understanding floods your heart and creates in you a new resolve to forgive others just as Christ forgave you.
Just in case you have no idea how to go about it, I’ve been kind enough to help you out with my forgiveness mantra. Say it to yourself and actually mean it. (Extra p.s – You may have to say it over and again before it sets in, and that’s totally fine.) Tweak it how you wish ( in the right context though😁)
” (Insert name),
Just as Christ forgave me of all my wrongs, I forgive you for (insert wrongs).
As a beneficiary of the grace of God, I extend the same arm of grace towards you.
Regardless of how much you hurt me, my joy is not circumstantial. And for this reason, the hurt is not an excuse to stay angry with you.
I am reborn of the spirit of love, therefore I extend this love towards you.
I genuinely pray for you that the love of God works in you to make you a better person to me and to others.
I pray that the light of the word floods your understanding and you grow in the love of Christ and be all that he’ll have you be.
I release you from my heart and I am comforted in Jesus name, Amen.”
Walk in love the rest of the week. Till my next post and till Jesus comes again, Forgive.❤